Almost any, even small irritation may bring a reaction that results in a compulsion to abuse a child. Also, one may strike out in uncontrollable anger upon being provoked to wrath by either the child, other parent or sibling, etc.
It is necessary and desirable to keep ourselves under control, to strive for the mastery of all things. The crown to be obtained is incorruptible (1 Corinthians 9:25-27). Self- control (temperance) is obtained through the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).
1 Corinthians 9:25-27 “And everyone who competes for the prize is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a perishable crown, but we for an imperishable crown. Therefore I run thus: not with uncertainty. Thus I fight: not as one who beats the air. But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.”
Ephesians 2:3 “among whom also we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others.”
Ephesians 6:4” And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.”
Romans 13:14 “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”
Determine the need for salvation and baptism with the Holy Spirit. Does the person really want to change? Minister as needed.
Child abuse may be a result of either demon activity, compulsive behavior, drug and alcohol abuse, or like problems. Frustration is a major cause. A child becomes the innocent whipping post to vent these frustrations.
A transformation is needed, brought about by a renewing of the mind. The place to start is with repentance and faith in Christ to remove and overcome the rage experienced. Encourage counselee to join with a Spirit-filled fellowship for mutual help in such needs.
Share the principals of praise to overcome a compulsive temptation. Instruct counselee to take authority over this anger in the name of Jesus. “Don’t let anger drive you”.
Note: child abuse is against the law in most, if not all states. See God’s view of breaking the law. (Romans 1:1-3, 1 Peter2:13-14)
Bind any discerned spirits such as cause a reprobate mind and command them to leave in Jesus’s name.
Pray for the Holy Spirit to anoint the counselee, head to toe, and to completely cleanse his mind.
Offer praise and thanksgiving for victory.
Philippians 4:4-9, 13 – instruction for growth in Jesus.
“9.The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you.”
“13.I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Hebrews 1:14 – angels will minister for you.
“Are they not all ministering spirits sent forth to minister for those who will inherit salvation?”
Romans 12:2 – renew your mind.
“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”
James 4:7 – resist satan
“Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you”
Romans 6 – God’s grace vs sinful behavior.
“1What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? 2Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it? 3Or do you not know that as many of us as were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? 4Therefore we were buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.
5For if we have been united together in the likeness of His death, certainly we also shall be in the likeness of His resurrection, 6knowing this, that our old man was crucified with Him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves of sin. 7For he who has died has been freed from sin. 8Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him, 9knowing that Christ, having been raised from the dead, dies no more. Death no longer has dominion over Him. 10For the death that He died, He died to sin once for all; but the life that He lives, He lives to God. 11Likewise you also, reckon yourselves to be dead indeed to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
12Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts. 13And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. 14For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.
From Slaves of Sin to Slaves of God
15What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not! 16Do you not know that to whom you present yourselves slaves to obey, you are that one’s slaves whom you obey, whether of sin leading to death, or of obedience leading to righteousness? 17But God be thanked that though you were slaves of sin, yet you obeyed from the heart that form of doctrine to which you were delivered. 18And having been set free from sin, you became slaves of righteousness. 19I speak in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh. For just as you presented your members as slaves of uncleanness, and of lawlessness leading to more lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves of righteousness for holiness.
20For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness. 21What fruit did you have then in the things of which you are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death. 22But now having been set free from sin, and having become slaves of God, you have your fruit to holiness, and the end, everlasting life. 23For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”